ABOUT ME
I used to believe being chosen proved my worth.
For a long time, I thought I was a confident person. But relationships brought out a different side of me - one that overthought everything, compared herself constantly, and always worried she wasn't enough.
Somewhere along the way, I started believing that if someone chose me fully and wholeheartedly, it would finally prove my worth.
At the time, that felt so true for me... but now I have the insight to understand why, plus the tools that have helped me become more comfortable in my own skin, feel safe and choose myself.
"It's not just about who you're with. It's about how you treat yourself inside the relationship."
MY STORY
What I didn’t understand then…
Even though I made sure my world revolved around him... It was never really about him.
It was about what being chosen represented to me - genuine safety, worth and validation... I was searching for proof from him that I was good enough.
Without realising it, I had tied my sense of value to his actions, or lack of... So when his consistency began to lessen, I could feel myself starting to unravel.
And it became this negative spiral:
The more on edge I noticed I felt, the more I clung.
And the more I clung, the smaller I became...
Until eventually, I barely recognised myself.
MY EXPERIENCE
Why I do the work I do
The patterns I help you to break are the ones I broke first, and that's a huge part of why I went back to train as a Psychotherapist - I didn't want to just be someone who had "figured it out," I wanted the depth to understand why I reacted the way I did for decades with no change, and why it worked for me, so I could actually teach it and not just describe it.
Now, I'm a coach and Trainee Therapist, currently completing my four-year training to become a psychotherapist in Transactional Analysis, and once qualified I'll hold an Advanced Level 7 (Masters Equivalent) Clinical Psychotherapy Diploma... (which feels like a real pinch-me moment!)
MY APPROACH
How I actually work with people
I don't believe in "just think positive" or telling you to leave him and attract better - because those were the exact useless things people said to me, and none of it touched the actual pattern as to why I had several relationships with the same issues and outcomes. Different faces, but the exact same patterns I took everywhere with me.
What changed wasn't willpower. It was understanding where the reaction was actually coming from, building the tools to stay steady in the moment it happens, and practising a different response until it stopped being a performance and actually became real, for me.
I just want to be clear here too: our sessions are coaching, not therapy. If something comes up that needs clinical support, I'll always tell you and point you toward the right kind of support.
Understand your patterns
Helping you see what's really driving your thoughts, reactions, and relationships.
Make sense of your
attachment style
So you can understand why you feel the way you do in love and connection.
Stay steady in your emotions
Giving you practical tools to manage overwhelming feelings with confidence.
Receive honest, grounded
support
Clear, compassionate guidance to help you move forward.
Transactional Analysis
Helping you understand the patterns shaping how you think, feel, and relate.
Attachment-informed insight
Bringing clarity to the emotional patterns behind how you connect.
Emotional regulation tools
Practical ways to stay steady, even in difficult emotional moments.
IS THIS YOU?
Who I Work With
Most of the women I work with are confident in so many areas of their life. They're accomplished, capable, independent and self-aware...
But when it comes to relationships, something switches.
You might recognise yourself in this if you tend to overthink small changes, spiral after a disagreement, or find yourself comparing and questioning your worth. (I know I did!)
- You feel successful on the outside but unfulfilled on the inside
- You're tired of waiting to be chosen to be happy
- You know there's more to life but you're not sure how to access it
- You crave deeper connection - with yourself, in your relationships and the world around
- You're ready to feel self-assured no matter what happens
- You're willing to do the inner work, even when it's uncomfortable
THE TRANSFORMATION
What changes when you do this work
Clarity
You stop second-guessing yourself and start making decisions from a place of deep knowing.
Confidence
You show up in your life fully, not as who you think you should be, but as who you actually are.
Freedom
You release the patterns, beliefs and relationships that have been keeping you small.
Joy
You rediscover the simple, profound pleasure of being, rather than focused entirely and living life for someone else.
. . . Feeling more like yourself.
OUTSIDE OF COACHING
A bit more about me
Slight confession: I became a relationship coach because I felt like I'd had every relationship pattern, problem and trigger, and I wanted to change my own patterns first.
Somewhere between the training and the personal work, it became the thing I actually wanted to do with my life.
Outside of sessions; I'm usually somewhere with good coffee, a book and too many thoughts about relationships - or walking, travelling, and laughing too loud with good friends.
I've done my own version of this work - the overthinking, the clinging and the slow unlearning - long before I trained to help other women do it, so it's not just theory to me, it's lived, and that's why it means so much to me.